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I need help trying to deal with my story. I told my parents, family, and friends that I'm bisexual and ever since then some of my family constantly calls me names such as dyke, lesbian, etc. This happens when we get into arguments. Sometimes my dad tells... Smartmami1, 14, CA
This year I realized I was bisexual and this other girl told me she liked me. But I don’t want to go public. I already lost a friend. I don’t want to lose more friends. What do I do? Confused, 13, Schuyler NE
I DON’T KNOW WHERE ELSE TO TURN! I have felt alone for years now with nobody to talk to. There’s nobody to help me. Suicide has been on my mind, I cut and I don’t know my SO (sexual orientation). I feel different at different times and I also feel being a... Chris, 15, Orange Park FL
My name is Manny. I am a boy and I'm 17 years old. The thing is, I've always felt like a girl. I really want to be a girl, but my father doesn't approve. I know that I should be liking girls, but I just don't feel right. I was wondering if you could help... Manny, 17, AL
I know it’s difficult to figure out your sexuality and that no one can figure it out for you but is it possible that a bad experience as a child could influence your sexuality? When I was little I was sexually abused by my cousin. Has this somehow... Jude, 20, CA
I am a 16 year old boy with an illness that has kept me in the house, no socializing, for 2 years. Prior to my illness, I was attracted to girls. Since my illness, I recently find that muscular men on TV get me excited. Does this mean I am gay? Nathan, 16, Columbus OH
My brother is bi and people make fun of me about him and call me a lesbian (I’m not but I have nothing against it). What do I do? Heather, 14, CA
What can I do to stop feeling so lonely all the time and stop wanting to kill myself? I feel like there's no hope for me. Robert, 16, CA
This is the honest truth. It kind of freaked me out too. My name is Trevor and when I was in the sixth grade (Now about to be a freshman) I was tortured by kids at my school, and constantly being called a 'fag' 'queer' etc. etc. I had enough one day and... Trevor, 14, TN
I am a 13 year old guy who is gay. I have told some of my friends and they reacted well. I really want to fully come out to everyone and be openly gay but I don't know how. Help me. Dillon, 13, Boston MA