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Dear Trevor,   I have been struggling with depression and accepting and loving myself.  I think of myself as ugly and fat and worth nothing.  I have been trying to work on it. I went through self injuring and trying to commit suicide.... Nikki, 18, Chicago IL
Hi! I am 18 years old and gay. Some of my friends know that I am gay, but I am not open; especially to my family and relatives. I am ashamed of them knowing since I am the only boy in my family.   What should I do? Should I force myself to be... gayme, 18, Bay LAG
I'm a lesbian.  Right now, I go to a community college and work at a fast food franchise.  School is terrible, but I need to go because I need to try to make future goals.  It's so hard because I struggle every day to... Julieevee, 18, Pawtucket RI
I am a seventeen-year-old female-to-male transgender, and until about two weeks ago, I wasn't sure my life was worth living anymore. I had been trying for weeks to tell my mom that I was transgender, but she kept giving me the same ol' "You'... Evan Chambers, 17, Louisville KY
 Dear Trevor, My life just doesn't seem worth living. I have tried to commit suicide twice but I kept thinking of my family's faces when they would find me and how they would be humiliated and confused because they had no idea that I was even... Sophia Grace, 13, Shelby NC
Dear Trevor,   This isn't really a question: it's an answer for people out there who need hope. If you go to I'm pretty sure all you're going to do is smile, so visit that website. It may help eliminate suicidal... dessie296, 14, M NY
Jess, 14, Memphis TN
Dear Trevor,   I had a horrific crash landing after realizing I was gay. I wanted to hide from it, but I could not deny it. When I was in high school, I was constantly teased about my sexuality; my friends found out I had a sexual encounter with... Damon, 18, South Bend IN
Dear Trevor,   I'm 16 years old and I have been questioning my sexuality for about 3 years, ever since I started to have feelings toward other girls. I definitely like guys, but I have been having little "crushes" on girls,... MariaC, 16, Minneapolis MN
Dear Trevor,   I'm really scared right now. I don't know how to tell people that I might be gay. I'm 16 years old and I am a male. So far I've kept my orientation a secret. I once came out to my parents when I was in seventh grade, telling them... lonely, 16, bellport NY