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Dear Trevor,   I don't identify as female anymore, and I don't want to go by my birth name. I've asked people to start calling me Kyler, and many have. But the ones who come to my house every day -- and a person who lives with me -- won't... Kyler, 17, Santa Maria CA
Hey. I'm not usually the sort of person who asks for help, but I've been finding life increasingly difficult and my best friend recommended this site. I'm a fifteen-year-old lesbian, and I've known for pretty much as long as I can remember. I've... Abbi, 15, State College PA
Hi. My name (or, rather, alias) is Iven. It's my first time writing in to something like this, so I'm quite nervous.   So anyway, just some quick background info. I'm Asian. My parents are rather traditional, and I've quite a few Christian friends... Iven, 18, Miami FL
Cutting In Maryland., 15, Freeland MD
Dear Trevor, I am terrified to tell my parents that I am bisexual. I heard my dad say that he was a little homophobic so that makes me definitely not want to tell him for sure! I think my mom will be more understanding on my sexuality, but I just don't... Zach, 14, MN
Dear Trevor,  I am constantly, extremely depressed.  It's been several years now since I've discovered and accepted that I am gay, though I still haven't told my family due to their extremely homophobic views.  While in high school I had... Ryan, 18, Brownsville TX
It's honestly tough to even type this. I am 20 years old and pretty sure that I'm gay. I haven't told anyone in my life about this - I almost told my best friend 3 years ago, but didn't. I don't know how to talk to anyone about this, and don't think I... alexander, 20, Regina SK
Dear Trevor,  My past life has been a great one. I have been blessed with a good family, no financial problems or anything. The fact that my parents weren't around much was hard but I got over that. Now that I am old enough to realize what is... Richard, 17, Houston TX
I only recently came out to my family. My mom and my dad seem to be ok, but I haven't heard anything from my older sister. I started seeing a psychologist; I don't know what else I can do. I want to be myself, but I am nervous. I ... Landon, 21, North Edwards CA
I am a gay male and my boyfriend of two months told me he wants to go to the local gay club with me. Neither of us have been before, but we both want to go. I'm not really the dancing type, but he definitely is. I'd rather stay on the side and talk to... Carl, 17, New Bern NC