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Dear Trevor, Only a few short months ago, my life was simple enough. I may not have been very "normal" but I was comfortable with whom I was, rather than trying to be who others expected me to be. Now I find myself totally engulfed by darkness. It... SalguoD, 15, Hermosa Beach CA
I have known of my sexuality since 6th grade and went through a lot to accept myself. For the first year I went through denial not even knowing the name of what I called a disease or punishment from God. In the second year I contemplated suicide and... Desche21, 14, Los Angeles CA
I am still - well, I'm back in the closet because my mom is a homophobic Christian who believes being gay is a sin. I told her and she freaked. I just need help and calling is just something I can't do. Please help me. I don't know what to do anymore. K, ,
I feel like no matter what I do, I’m hurting someone. If something bad happens and I know I could have stopped it, it really puts me down. I just don’t know how to be happy and still make people happy. Help? Nonsense, 14, KY
Patrick, 15, New York City NY
I know I'm a girl, but part of me wants to be a guy, and I don't know why. There are days where I feel like a girl and there are days where I feel like a guy. I want to know if it's an emotional problem or if it's something bigger. It's... Randi, 18, Brenham TX
Me personally, I LOVE watching movies with gay, lesbian, or bisexual people in it. I even have the LOGO channel. But my aunt and friends say watching it is bad for me and I should never be bisexual or lesbian. I love watching it because those... Tasia, 13, Charlotte NC
Well, about a year ago, my parents found out about a secret relationship I was having with a girl, and I can no longer have ANY contact with her whatsoever. They were beyond angry, yelled at me, were ashamed, and just couldn't believe it. They told me... Luna112, 16, n/a KS
Dear Trevor, My name is Simeon. I'm 14 years old on my way to 15 in less than 10 days!! What the heck is going on! I don't know what my sexual orientation is. I mean, yes, I like guys but do I want too, NO!! I mean, YES!!  No!! I don't know!!... Simeon, 14, District Heights MD
Hello, I really want to tell someone I am bi but I have issues. My parents told me when I was younger that if I was to be gay and I lived in their house that they would kick me out and disown me. I almost want to tell one of my best friends who is fine... Desperate, 15, n/a AL