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If I'm gay, am I doomed to become HIV-positive? Scared, 17, Dallas TX
How do I know if I'm lesbian or straight or bisexual? I had experiences with different girls and I like it, but I 'm not really sure if I like it because I'm growing up with only guys and I got sick of guys, or because I... Alexandra, 13, n/a AL
Dear Trevor, I’ve just recently accepted that I am 100% homosexual. I’ve suppressed my thoughts and feelings for years but my denial was always unstable; I once even persuaded myself into believing I was asexual, without a sexual orientation. I was... Chase, 21, AL
I am really worrying how to tell my parents that I am bisexual. I have never dated a guy but that is because no one in my area is, but I am attracted to guys and girls. My parents told me when I was younger that if I was ever gay they would kick me out.... Undisclosed, 17, TN
Dear Trevor,I’ve been interested in boys since before I can remember, but I like girls as well. I’ve pretty much resigned the idea of being in a relationship with a boy because of my parents. I’m almost positive my mother suspects that I... Aaron, 16, Shreveport LA
When I was around 4 years old I was raped/sexually harrased for awile till I was 7 or may be longer i honestly dont remmeber. I finaly told my mother last year, and i told her who it was. She didnt say much or do much about it which kills me slowly... Misunderstood, 15, NJ
I saw A CUT on my daughter and she's been really different. Linda, 42, NV
This year I realized I was bisexual and this other girl told me she liked me. But I don’t want to go public. I already lost a friend. I don’t want to lose more friends. What do I do? Confused, 13, Schuyler NE
I need help trying to deal with my story. I told my parents, family, and friends that I'm bisexual and ever since then some of my family constantly calls me names such as dyke, lesbian, etc. This happens when we get into arguments. Sometimes my dad tells... Smartmami1, 14, CA
I am a pre-op (ftm) and for the past year, I have finally openly confronted my demons "head on" by going to my Doctor. Since then all I have received in terms of support is medication for depression, which I do not want, and was assured I would be seen by... Louis, 22, Wales NE