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My parents hit me and call me names for being a lesbian, what should I do? Confusedgirl69, 15, Wauchula FL
My parents hit me and call me names for being a lesbian, what should I do? Confusedgirl69, 15, Wauchula FL
I DON’T KNOW WHERE ELSE TO TURN! I have felt alone for years now with nobody to talk to. There’s nobody to help me. Suicide has been on my mind, I cut and I don’t know my SO (sexual orientation). I feel different at different times and I also feel being a... Chris, 15, Orange Park FL
Okay, so I know I for sure like guys. But I really really do think I like girls too. So like how do I find out if I actually do or not. Should I kiss a girl? Confused, 13, NC
Hello all,First, I am so sorry if you find my English is not good because I am teaching myself.I am Ayman, male, from Yemen and I live there. I am 26 years old and gay.I am talented in fashion, I like to write stories, and I like to make documentary... Ayman Mohammed, 26, Yemen Sana,a
I know it’s difficult to figure out your sexuality and that no one can figure it out for you but is it possible that a bad experience as a child could influence your sexuality? When I was little I was sexually abused by my cousin. Has this somehow... Jude, 20, CA
I am a 16 year old boy with an illness that has kept me in the house, no socializing, for 2 years. Prior to my illness, I was attracted to girls. Since my illness, I recently find that muscular men on TV get me excited. Does this mean I am gay? Nathan, 16, Columbus OH
My name is Manny. I am a boy and I'm 17 years old. The thing is, I've always felt like a girl. I really want to be a girl, but my father doesn't approve. I know that I should be liking girls, but I just don't feel right. I was wondering if you could help... Manny, 17, AL
Ok,so im pretty sure im bisexual but how do I tell my parents?Whenever I get onto the topic,they say something that gets me almost scared to tell them. Amber, 15, NY
Do Gays Go To Hell? Colby, 16, Gastonia NC