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My brother is bi and people make fun of me about him and call me a lesbian (I’m not but I have nothing against it). What do I do? Heather, 14, CA
What can I do to stop feeling so lonely all the time and stop wanting to kill myself? I feel like there's no hope for me. Robert, 16, CA
my parents always ignore me when i try to tell them my feelings for people or any of my feelings really. what do i do? Christina, 14, Wasilla AK
This is the honest truth. It kind of freaked me out too. My name is Trevor and when I was in the sixth grade (Now about to be a freshman) I was tortured by kids at my school, and constantly being called a 'fag' 'queer' etc. etc. I had enough one day and... Trevor, 14, TN
dear trevor i think i am a lesbian when i see women i just get turned i need to find a way to come out without critisism Rachel, 13, New York NY
Why is it so hard for children to come out then adults? Deandre, 15, Lamarque TX
I am just so confused! I like guys, I like their faces only though. I hate guys' bodies, I find them totally unattractive! I only fantasize about girls' bodies. What does this mean? Am I bi curious? Or just a total pervert? Monique, 13, IN
Dear Trevor,Why is it so hard for people to accept gay, lesbian, bisexuals, transgender,and questioning youth and others? I mean I got basically yelled at through facebook by supporting same sex marriage the person said as christians we are not suppose to... Cassandra, 19, CA
I am a 13 year old guy who is gay. I have told some of my friends and they reacted well. I really want to fully come out to everyone and be openly gay but I don't know how. Help me. Dillon, 13, Boston MA
Mom wants to disown me and kick me out. Feeling suicidal lately. Nowhere to go. What should I do? Sappas, 17, Perth Amboy NJ