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I think I might be a lesbian or bisexual but I’m afraid of telling my parents or friends. My dad doesn’t like gay people and my mom has a gay brother so she might understand. So what do I do? Erin, 13, Cincinatti OH
Hello Trevor, I have been questioning my sexuality for a while because I look at gay porn and masterbate to it but I still have sexual feelings for girls. And also at a young age I had my first gay experience with a classmate of mine when we where in the... Nathan, 16, Tucson AZ
Dear Trevor,Recently I have been confused with my orientation.....I have had a girlfriend and liked her but recently i have been having the same feelings towards a friend of the same sex. I just want to know what I am and end this confusion. Geoff, 15, CA
i always thought i was straight until about a week ago when i started to kinda...feel differently. i cant tell if im just making it up or wether i really am bi... please help! Questioning Girl, 13, Warren PA
I’m not but I sound it. I sometimes want to die because of the comments I get and I went emo once. I have not told anyone but I don’t want people to know so I just take it. Sometimes, I wish I was not on the earth now. Can you give me options? Bobby, 13, Frankfort NY
Well im not sure if im bi because im made out with a girl and its the same with a guy but its just sooo confunsing can you help me?? Jenna, 12, Fresno CA
I’m not sure what to do. My parents leave me locked up in my room for the whole summer. They let my sisters leave the house and not me. They don’t let me even look at a guy when I have a crush. But since I haven’t been allowed to hang out with the guys, I... Maria, 14, Albuquerque NM
Is it normal for a teen my age to think of suicide due to emotional stress? What can I do? Joshua, 16, Barbourville KY
Dear Trevor,My name is Jaimey and I am a bisexual male living in Rocky Mount, North Carolina. I want to know how to tell my family, especially my dad, that I am bisexual. Most of my family are not very open minded. I am scared that if I tell my dad... Jaimey, 17, Rocky Mount NC
I live in the United Arab Emirates Dubai, but am originally from the Indian sub-continent. I try to be as straight as possible but fell in love with my straight best friend and I know for a fact that nothing is possible between me and him but I still... Austin, 18, Dubai