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The trans community can't stop reading horrific news. There's a way to turn away.

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The transgender community faces a barrage of negative headlines daily. Between anti-transgender legislation and people claiming transgender people don't exist at every turn, you can't miss them.

Negative headline after negative headline can take its toll on anyone. But statistics show the transgender community – specifically transgender youth – is particularly vulnerable to a lack of acceptance, with higher rates of suicide attempts than their lesbian, gay and bisexual peers, according to The Trevor Project. 

This Transgender Awareness Week, experts suggest trans people take time to unplug, and focus on taking action to lift up the community.

"We need to break that cycle of just doom scrolling," diversity advocate Precious Brady-Davis says. "Let's put some action into our work."

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Sean Ebony Coleman, the founder and executive director of Destination Tomorrow, a TLGBQ center in the Bronx in New York, agrees that disconnecting is beneficial. For him, that means shutting off CNN and changing the channel to something silly, listening to good music or checking out an informational video about manifestation. He also believes finding people that love and support you – whether that's family, chosen family or a significant other – and being present with them is key.

"That means putting your cell phone down or logging off of social media, so you can actually interact with the folks that love and care about you."

Brady-Davis adds: "I don't think people see the fullness of the humanity of trans folks. And so that's what I try to do, particularly in, in my work, and sometimes we have the right to tune out what, the world is always saying about us."

If you can't turn away try taking deep breaths and feeling your body to stay present.

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"If you can't shut it down for some reason, then figure out what you can do to get engaged, because I find that staying busy and active about something that you're passionate about also makes you happy," Coleman says.

Try joining a Facebook group, in-person meetup or host a potluck dinner at your house in an effort to build community. You could even use that time to strategize about laws and policies affecting the trans community and form a coalition to fight them.

"Saying that it gets better is so cliche," Coleman says. "It may not get better. And that's just the sad reality of it. I think what we each should take away from this is that no one's free until we're all free."

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But don't let the idea of sweeping change deter you from trying to make a small difference, too. "So often, people are always looking for the big victory," Brady-Davis says. "They're looking for the splashy byline. And I think it's about celebrating the small victories, helping someone navigate getting a job, helping someone find housing. There are tangible things that we can assist and help and build community."

Allies of the trans community – and perhaps fellow members – should take the time to learn about unfamiliar facets of the group. The experience of Black trans men, as depicted in documentary "Still Black," will be different than a white trans high school student, as depicted in Amazon documentary series "Always Jane," for example. Elsewhere, "Changing the Game" on Hulu focuses on transgender student athletes, and "As One" chamber opera features two singers as one transgender protagonist. (More media suggestions available here.)

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Through these examples, viewers can better gain a holistic view of transgender experiences.

"We, as trans folks, have hopes, have dreams, have fears," Brady-Davis says. "And we have the right to navigate society safely. We have the right to walk down the street without feeling like we're going to be harmed. We have the right to have access to gainful employment. We have the right to access steady and safe housing."

And for trans people specifically, remember that "self-care is community care."

"Taking care of ourselves is how we will continue to advance ourselves and advance the rest of our community," Brady-Davis says. "If we're not preserving ourselves and prioritizing mental health, there's nothing else to give."

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